Girls Straightjacketed By Thoughts! By Yumna
Educating the Educated!!! Blessing still is considered a curse! Is having a daughter really unfortunate??? Do people still fear to have daughters??? Well fatefully yes!
Few days back when I heard women scarily talking about having a daughter, I realized that still we need awareness among people and need to educate the so called educated society. Still parents feel fearful of giving birth to daughters just because they are not boys. Huh… is it really a curse being daughter? Well actually it’s not at all. We cannot generalize. There remain thousands of families who don’t want girls as their children. The thing that saddens me is even the well educated people come up with such statements that are ludicrous to hear. It makes me wonder about those women wanting to have boy children that what actually has been as bad for her being in the journey as a girl?
The experience of being a girl for me has been wonderful so far and I adore myself. I have been through the time when I looked more like a tomboy, fought with my mother for every little thing I wanted to have, grew up as a girly girl, teased my father hilariously and notorious all the times with siblings; be it brothers or sisters. It’s fantastic to be a girl for me and I feel blessed. What could be more interesting than following my passion in the longer run?? I would have been a scared girl! Yes… So scared…. if I had not been strong, if I did not value myself, if my parents did not teach me to be good to others, to work hard to achieve what I want, if they had not believed me to take wise and right decisions and to make me feel like I can always talk to them about anything that is bothering me. The same thing goes for my brother as well. I do not have any fear.
They should know that girls now days are doing wonders if they are given freedom and trust from her acquaintances. Embarrassingly I think people feel more comfortable when they are having boys as children. I accept that all parents want to give their sons the best of everything and it’s not bad at all. They just want to provide everything comfy in the first half of life but does seeing them speaking preposterously with the family and friends, watching them silently taking drugs after winning family trust, seeing them act obnoxious completely, observing them passing disrespectful compliments to other girls out and humiliating and shaming family reputation by doing impertinent deeds make them feel so much happy and proud?? Well I doubt that…
Awkwardly today the looks of boys are modern no matter what they are, what they do and wherever they go but many of them are nothing but a burden on earth seriously. Allah has blessed us all with different things for sure. There is no back button to change something if you don’t like. You get what you get and you should not be ashamed of anything from his bestowal. If he blesses you with daughters instead of sons then don’t mourn on it rather take that time to mentor. Of course it will not change a girl into a boy but you will have a child who will respect and admire you for bringing up in superb way possible and thus it will give you such memorable moments to cherish for the years to come, your nurturing will benefit you in future no matter if it’s for a boy or a girl. It is so important to do because if you will not do it then no one else will do it for you and your child thus will not receive your assistance in any way otherwise.
I still see parents having no or little broadmindedness to accept what their daughters are capable of, they want to lead their daughters’ lives just the way they want to, because the thing keeps haunting their minds is what the so called society will think actually if they will start to appreciate girls for their very own existence. Needless to say still we dearth those fathers who think their daughters as princesses.
Luxuriously adopting a lavishing up to the minute lifestyle and wearing trendy designer clothes doesn’t make one modern by thoughts.
Nature isn’t cruel at all…Girls are each wonderful!
To all girls reading this out….. 😉