SAY NO TO DOWRY (Jahez) By Hira Shahid
SAY NO TO DOWRY (Jahez)
Dowry (jahez) is not only a mare evil but it is the mother of many evils.
Dowry is a form of money, goods, jewels, property etc that a woman brings to her husband in marriage from her parents. Although dowry is not a part of Islam but it is common practice in Pakistan. This practice is destroying life of many young girls whose parents cannot afford to give the dowry. Many innocent lives have been lost due to this curse in our society.
Mostly in rural areas, women are been killed by their husbands or in laws for not bringing dowry. Even the educated families expect their daughter in law to bring good dowry. Parents who are blessed by daughters severely suffer due to this custom Impact of dowry leaves a woman helpless and desperate. Unmarried girls become mentally affected as they have to face rejection due to less or no dowry. Marriage has become a short cut to become rich for the parents who have sons. Birth of baby girl is still considered to be curse in our society due to dowry system, as there is no place for such stereotypes in our religion but this has become part of our culture. Parent’s are usually not ready to spend money on girl’s education as they will have to spend a lot of money on giving dowry at the time of their wedding. Women are not getting proper respect due to this curse. Due to this custom women are not given the share of parents property which is the right of women in Islam. By giving dowry in form of goods and gold they think they gave them enough share so there is no need to give property share.
But now I think it’s time to bring a social change and obsolete these kinds of social evils from our society. We as the youth of Pakistan must stand together to condemn and stop this practice. We should stand together and aim for eradication of dowry system.
Take the pledge – Say NO to Dowry:
- I will not accept dowry in any form e.g. cash, car, furniture etc.
- I will not marry into a family that demands dowry.
- I promise never to take or give dowry.
- I will voluntarily raise awareness amongst family, friends and colleagues.
- Be a MAN and Say NO to Dowry System.
- Educational institutes should portray against dowry system.
- We seriously need to change our mentality as a whole.
- Take oath with ourselves with your God as witness.